Have thought a lot about our electronic gadgets lately. The "social network" and "age of electronics" has been booming, while our real life relationships have been failing.
I've seen so many couples out to eat, sitting in their car or just being with each other lately and they both have their phones out. The sad part? I do the same thing. And we wonder why relationships are failing. When you're with your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife, put the phone down and give them your undivided attention. Show them you WANT to spend time with them and care about what they're saying. Believe me, it will make a huge difference.
Relationships are built on choosing certain things. You have to CHOOSE to look past faults and realize your significant other is not perfect. You have to CHOOSE to love them each and every day all over again. However, if your time and attention is spent on everything BUT your partner, the relationship will begin to fail and you lose the ability to communicate. Face to face, real life relationships are almost an endangered species. We can "talk" to anyone about anything via text/Facebook/Twitter, but when we are around people we begin to feel uncomfortable and awkward. This isn't how it should be.
I try and fail all the time to spend more time with people and less time with my face buried in a screen; and I will admit it loud and clear, I fail a lot. When I go on a date with my boyfriend and sit waiting on my food, my first reaction isn't to start a conversation with him. I pick up my phone and get on Facebook, Instagram or start texting people. That is an issue. When things get rough, my phone can't comfort me, be there for me, stand up for me or tell me it will be okay. It won't provide for me, love me or take me on adventures. If everything else fails me, it will be HIM who is there to be with me, not a single electronic device could do that.
Life is about relationships. Good or bad, it's all about relationships. We need to start taking the ones we have more serious. Of course they will fail is we allow them to. Talking through problems, fears, frustrations or concerns is how you draw closer to people; just like our relationship with Christ.
("Draw near to God and He will draw near to you." -James 4:8)
Any relationship in our life will require work. It won't always be easy. But going to our computer, tablet, or phone won't ever solve anything. Sure, people you go to through those things will give you advice or tell you how to handle the situation, but you being able to go to whomever you want means you will automatically go to those you know will tell you what you want to hear.
I'll tell you, if I went to God as much as I went to Facebook, I would spend my whole day with Him. It's sad to think about, but it's the truth.
The change we want in our lives, we have to start with ourselves. Turn that pointing finger around at ourselves for once. Find what WE are doing wrong and stop pointing at everyone else hoping that, by pointing out what's wrong with THEM, we somehow make ourselves better.
It's time we realize relationships aren't one sided. ONE person can't give and give and give to make the relationship work. A person can only give so much, and when one person is doing the work of two people it will eventually drain them dry. Couple relationships are about each person giving 100%.
Example:
-Women- Your guy needs guy time. He can't always stay with you every time he isn't working.
-Men- Sometimes sitting through a romance movie will mean more to her than a fancy dinner.
Put the phone down, step away from the computer. Go build relationships that will last long past your phone or computers faddish style.
I've seen so many couples out to eat, sitting in their car or just being with each other lately and they both have their phones out. The sad part? I do the same thing. And we wonder why relationships are failing. When you're with your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife, put the phone down and give them your undivided attention. Show them you WANT to spend time with them and care about what they're saying. Believe me, it will make a huge difference.
Relationships are built on choosing certain things. You have to CHOOSE to look past faults and realize your significant other is not perfect. You have to CHOOSE to love them each and every day all over again. However, if your time and attention is spent on everything BUT your partner, the relationship will begin to fail and you lose the ability to communicate. Face to face, real life relationships are almost an endangered species. We can "talk" to anyone about anything via text/Facebook/Twitter, but when we are around people we begin to feel uncomfortable and awkward. This isn't how it should be.
I try and fail all the time to spend more time with people and less time with my face buried in a screen; and I will admit it loud and clear, I fail a lot. When I go on a date with my boyfriend and sit waiting on my food, my first reaction isn't to start a conversation with him. I pick up my phone and get on Facebook, Instagram or start texting people. That is an issue. When things get rough, my phone can't comfort me, be there for me, stand up for me or tell me it will be okay. It won't provide for me, love me or take me on adventures. If everything else fails me, it will be HIM who is there to be with me, not a single electronic device could do that.
Life is about relationships. Good or bad, it's all about relationships. We need to start taking the ones we have more serious. Of course they will fail is we allow them to. Talking through problems, fears, frustrations or concerns is how you draw closer to people; just like our relationship with Christ.
("Draw near to God and He will draw near to you." -James 4:8)
Any relationship in our life will require work. It won't always be easy. But going to our computer, tablet, or phone won't ever solve anything. Sure, people you go to through those things will give you advice or tell you how to handle the situation, but you being able to go to whomever you want means you will automatically go to those you know will tell you what you want to hear.
I'll tell you, if I went to God as much as I went to Facebook, I would spend my whole day with Him. It's sad to think about, but it's the truth.
The change we want in our lives, we have to start with ourselves. Turn that pointing finger around at ourselves for once. Find what WE are doing wrong and stop pointing at everyone else hoping that, by pointing out what's wrong with THEM, we somehow make ourselves better.
It's time we realize relationships aren't one sided. ONE person can't give and give and give to make the relationship work. A person can only give so much, and when one person is doing the work of two people it will eventually drain them dry. Couple relationships are about each person giving 100%.
Example:
-Women- Your guy needs guy time. He can't always stay with you every time he isn't working.
-Men- Sometimes sitting through a romance movie will mean more to her than a fancy dinner.
Put the phone down, step away from the computer. Go build relationships that will last long past your phone or computers faddish style.
