Worth.
Everyone, since the beginning of time, has struggled with the emotions of feeling worthy or "good enough". Eve was tempted by Satan to disobey God; He filled her head with lies, saying she would find more "worth" and be powerful, as powerful as God, if she would just take a bite of the fruit. Of course, as it always goes, the price of searching for worth outside of Christ is quite costly.
Now most of the time these feelings have to do with special people in our lives, so I will use those relationships as examples in this post.
We search our whole lives for worth and acceptance in our boyfriends/girlfriends, husband/wife; we think of these people as our savior; someone who can make us feel better. The only problem with this is that we begin to put those people on such a high pedestal, put so many expectations on them being nothing but perfect 24/7, that we begin to suck the very life from them and end up causing them to feel unworthy of anything.
People cannot fix us. Our boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife cannot be the perfect person we have in our mind. The more we expect perfection from them the more they will let us down. The kind of expectations people put on relationships is the very reason relationships are struggling everyday.
See, our problem is that we have let the world brain wash us (for lack of better words) into thinking relationships are about US. This, of course, not being God's intention, but we go on our merry little way listening to everything the world whispers in our ears. They tell us our significant other should always do what we want, when we want it if they are really a good mate. If they don't meet up to that standard, we just toss them away and try someone else. Now, I don't condone divorce, it's makes me very sad, but I will not cast someone out or shun them because they have made that decision. The thing is, the lies we hear, how often things begin to take place, it's all part of Satan's plan. He says it's all normal...part of everyday life. "It will happen with every marriage eventually," "who wants to stay with one person for forever? You need to keep your options open or have an open marriage" we are told. Once we no longer feel like someone gives us worth or makes us feel important, we drop them like a bag of trash.
FACT- We will never be able to find worth if we keep searching in people instead of Christ.
We're not surprised people have been married five different times? When a movie star is caught having another affair? Why? Because we've been told for so many years that we should search for someone who makes us feel good and soar high, and when we no longer have those "fire works" we are supposed to dump the baggage and move one.
It might sound like a cliche Christian speech, but nevertheless, it's the plain and simple truth. Finding God is the only way we will find what man has been looking for since he was first created. When a person knows they are loved and accepted, they will do just about anything for them. But see, to find worth, acceptance, love and joy, we must look only to the One who created us; not the ones who were created. I mean, think about it. Whereas the world rejects when we no longer meet up to their standards, the God of the universe MADE you. He doesn't only want you. He CREATED you; just the way you are. He loves you for who you are, not what you can do for Him.
If people would make finding God more of a priority than finding worth...they would see exactly what they're looking for has been right in front of them.
Don't blame your spouse, significant other, parents or friends for not having the self worth you felt they should have made you feel. It's not their place. God already thinks you're priceless, and though you can't always feel His presence in your life He has promised He will never leave you. He will always forgive when asked to do so, will always love unconditionally. That is more than any human can ever give.
When I was a little girl our bible studies mainly consisted of my dad reading bible verses then proceeding to ask questions (normally with one word answers). Most of the time my siblings and I would answer "God!" whether we actually thought that was the answer or not...we always told my parents "God is the answer most of the time, so if we always answer that then we will almost always be right". "Faith like a child" as Jesus said. If I would have simply kept that mindset into my teen/adult years I would have had better practice having the right answers for life's questions.
No matter what your struggle, no matter how hard your life is right now, no matter how low you think you've gotten; God is the answer. We have to stop looking elsewhere for the answer we know is the right one. To see why God allowed pain in our life might possibly be something we won't ever find the answer to. But I guarantee you, down the road you will be able to look back and thank God for growing you so much through something seemingly tragic. "His ways are higher than our ways".
Our worth is found in HIM alone.
Everyone, since the beginning of time, has struggled with the emotions of feeling worthy or "good enough". Eve was tempted by Satan to disobey God; He filled her head with lies, saying she would find more "worth" and be powerful, as powerful as God, if she would just take a bite of the fruit. Of course, as it always goes, the price of searching for worth outside of Christ is quite costly.
Now most of the time these feelings have to do with special people in our lives, so I will use those relationships as examples in this post.
We search our whole lives for worth and acceptance in our boyfriends/girlfriends, husband/wife; we think of these people as our savior; someone who can make us feel better. The only problem with this is that we begin to put those people on such a high pedestal, put so many expectations on them being nothing but perfect 24/7, that we begin to suck the very life from them and end up causing them to feel unworthy of anything.
People cannot fix us. Our boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife cannot be the perfect person we have in our mind. The more we expect perfection from them the more they will let us down. The kind of expectations people put on relationships is the very reason relationships are struggling everyday.
See, our problem is that we have let the world brain wash us (for lack of better words) into thinking relationships are about US. This, of course, not being God's intention, but we go on our merry little way listening to everything the world whispers in our ears. They tell us our significant other should always do what we want, when we want it if they are really a good mate. If they don't meet up to that standard, we just toss them away and try someone else. Now, I don't condone divorce, it's makes me very sad, but I will not cast someone out or shun them because they have made that decision. The thing is, the lies we hear, how often things begin to take place, it's all part of Satan's plan. He says it's all normal...part of everyday life. "It will happen with every marriage eventually," "who wants to stay with one person for forever? You need to keep your options open or have an open marriage" we are told. Once we no longer feel like someone gives us worth or makes us feel important, we drop them like a bag of trash.
FACT- We will never be able to find worth if we keep searching in people instead of Christ.
We're not surprised people have been married five different times? When a movie star is caught having another affair? Why? Because we've been told for so many years that we should search for someone who makes us feel good and soar high, and when we no longer have those "fire works" we are supposed to dump the baggage and move one.
It might sound like a cliche Christian speech, but nevertheless, it's the plain and simple truth. Finding God is the only way we will find what man has been looking for since he was first created. When a person knows they are loved and accepted, they will do just about anything for them. But see, to find worth, acceptance, love and joy, we must look only to the One who created us; not the ones who were created. I mean, think about it. Whereas the world rejects when we no longer meet up to their standards, the God of the universe MADE you. He doesn't only want you. He CREATED you; just the way you are. He loves you for who you are, not what you can do for Him.
If people would make finding God more of a priority than finding worth...they would see exactly what they're looking for has been right in front of them.
Don't blame your spouse, significant other, parents or friends for not having the self worth you felt they should have made you feel. It's not their place. God already thinks you're priceless, and though you can't always feel His presence in your life He has promised He will never leave you. He will always forgive when asked to do so, will always love unconditionally. That is more than any human can ever give.
When I was a little girl our bible studies mainly consisted of my dad reading bible verses then proceeding to ask questions (normally with one word answers). Most of the time my siblings and I would answer "God!" whether we actually thought that was the answer or not...we always told my parents "God is the answer most of the time, so if we always answer that then we will almost always be right". "Faith like a child" as Jesus said. If I would have simply kept that mindset into my teen/adult years I would have had better practice having the right answers for life's questions.
No matter what your struggle, no matter how hard your life is right now, no matter how low you think you've gotten; God is the answer. We have to stop looking elsewhere for the answer we know is the right one. To see why God allowed pain in our life might possibly be something we won't ever find the answer to. But I guarantee you, down the road you will be able to look back and thank God for growing you so much through something seemingly tragic. "His ways are higher than our ways".
Our worth is found in HIM alone.
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